Us oldies, occasionally forget that newly weds may not know the ins and outs of Wedding Anniversary etiquette so here’s a quick run down of the etiquette.
- Gift giving is not mandatory, commemorating the event however is highly desirable.
- Early years Anniversary celebrations are instigated, typically, by the couple, later major ones may be organised by the couples children.
- Every 5th year is considered a major milestone Anniversary
- The 25th, 40th, 50th and 60th are the years considered the Major Wedding Anniversaries.
- Traditionally if a gift is given then it is often themed or made of a specific material which differs for each year. The Traditional Wedding Anniversary List shows all these materials for each year.
- A Modern version of the traditional list was updated to produce a more comprehensive list to cover more anniversary years, this runs side by side with the traditional list allowing you to choose gifts from either list.
- Other organisations have release other Wedding Anniversary lists, the only other two that are notable are the Gemstone Anniversary List and the appropriate flower list.
That’s it really, if you still have an etiquette question surrounding a wedding anniversary then please check our etiquette section or drop us a line and we’ll try and help.
Q. We are about to attend a 50th wedding anniversary. We are distant relatives. We realise the 50th is gold. We are wondering about a gift. Do we need to take one? Does it have to be gold?
A. Firstly, does the invitation give any clue, sometimes they say no gifts or similar, if not then within your family circle when similar events go on are gifts given?, is the event formal or informal?
These may help answer your question on whether they would be expected, etiquette experts are torn on this subject some will tell you that an invitation implies a gift should be presented unless explicitly stated whereas others state that an invitation does not mean a gift is required, this effectively is dependent upon your family and social circle and their expectations.
As it is the 50th and as you stated it is the Golden Wedding this does not mean the gift has to be Gold it is merely the symbol associated with the anniversary.
Many other gifts are available such as commemorative glasses, personalised gifts etc. These indicate the anniversary and are not gold. Mementos of the actually wedding are sometimes good or even a photographic history of their life since the marriage. My personal favourite especially for a major anniversary such as this is a bottle of fine wine or champagne bottled in the year they got married. Check our Golden Wedding gift section here: to see a range of gift ideas for any budget.