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Who celebrates a Wedding Anniversary?

30th AnniversaryTo mark Travelodge’s 30th anniversary, they’re giving away a free night’s stay in any one of their hotels in Britain to any couple celebrating their Pearl wedding (30th anniversary) in 2015, if anyone is intending to give this as a gift to their spouse don’t expect to be celebrating your 31st anniversary!

Travelodge also carried out research on wedding anniversaries. The research surveyed 3,000 couples about their views on celebrating an anniversary with the following findings:

Are you one of the majority who celebrate (Just)

It seems unbelievable, but according to their survey, just over half (54%) of British couples mark their wedding anniversary in some way.

Pleasingly, 72% of the respondent’s actually remember when their special day is.

Who spends most (and least) on gifts?

When buying gifts, 25% of adults responded that they alone are their partner’s gift and about one in ten (9%) will try and surprise their partner on their anniversary.

The research found that on average £111.11 was spent commemorating their anniversary. From this, £41.14 is spent on a gift and £69.97 on an experience to celebrate the event such as a meal out or going away.

Men tended to spend more, £124.49 as opposed to £99.47 by the women surveyed which is about 25% more.

The amount spent rose in London, where the average lovebird spends £153.00, ahead of Newcastle (£150.84) and Cambridge (£143.04) it’s not really clear if this is purely a reflection of increased costs in these areas or if indeed the spend is a reflection of an increase in their romantic persuasions.

The lowest spenders are in Gloucester (£48.57), Wrexham (£61.17) and Worcester (£61.66).

How do you celebrate anniversaries?

When it comes to celebrating, 41% of adults who mark their anniversary do so by going out for a romantic meal, whilst a fifth (20%) go all-out and whisk their partner away on a romantic UK break.

Pearl is the traditional gift theme for the 30th AnniversaryAs for the gift, just 14% of adults will buy a present that matches the theme on one of the Anniversary Gift Lists to mark a specific anniversary (such as silver to mark a 25th anniversary or pearls to mark the 30th anniversary). Which surprised us as we have lots of people buying (and searching) for gifts that match one of the gift lists.

Shakila Ahmed, Travelodge’s spokeswoman said, ‘To help celebrate our 30th anniversary, we thought it would be fitting to offer couples who are also celebrating their 30th anniversary this year a free night stay in any one of our 504 UK hotels.

For the great romantic getaway, we have hotels right across the UK in city centres, coastal hotspots and romantic locations such as York, Durham, Bath or the Cotswolds. We also have hotels in Grade II-listed buildings right across the UK, in locations such as London, Edinburgh, Brighton, Leeds and Liverpool.’

If you’re celebrating your 30th Wedding anniversary in 2015 see more of their offer at: https://www.travelodge.co.uk/blog/featured/30th-anniversary-2015-free-night/

Experience counts for a perfect gift

a well wrapped presentResearchers have discovered the components of a perfect gift and they are all to do with actions rather than physical goods!

Gifts that involve the recipient in an action or event are talked about more than when a gift is just a possession; being able to talk about the gift helps give the recipient an extra bonus to the present which in turn makes it more memorable and pleasurable.

Cornell University’s Amit Kumar chaired a  symposium titled ‘ON DOING AND HAVING’ and updated, by way of empirical data, the work Professor Thomas Gilovich’s previous research that showed that buying experiences brings people more happiness than material purchases.

The research has shown that gifts which involve the recipient in an experience (an Adrenaline challenge or a Romantic Holiday for example) bring more happiness than a purely material purchase (e.g. a commemorative gift or flat-screen television).

One potential explanation of this difference, recent research suggests, is that experiences can prompt storytelling more than mere possessions. The telling of stories has long been seen as a pleasurable experience and facilitate the re-living of the actual event in question; telling stories encourage embellishment, and they foster greater social connection all of which assist to enhance enjoyment of the original gift.

Experiences are better than sliced bread!Researcher’s further studies demonstrated that people are more inclined to talk about their experiences than their material purchases and they derive more happiness from doing so. They also confirmed that taking away the ability to talk about experiences (but not the material goods) could diminish the enjoyment they bring.

In one test participants were told they may keep one gift, either the most significant purchase but without being able to talk about it or the second most important purchase and were allowed to talk about it. Those taking part that recalled experiences were more likely to choose a less significant purchase they could still talk about compared to those who just recalled buying physical gifts.

So what does all this mean? well one point that sprung to mind was that you can be more frugal with a gift that involves an experience as the enjoyment and happiness derived gives you more bang for your buck!

I must admit sitting thinking about gifts I have been given I can easy recount those that involved an experience and although can remember great physical gifts I received I struggle more to recall them. What do you think are gifts you participate in better, let us know?

 

 

History of Wedding Anniversaries

Anniversaries have been celebrated effectively since the year after the wedding ceremony was invented and  references can be found in records stretching back centuries.

Nicholas Nickleby by Charles Dickens cites a celebration for an 8th wedding Anniversary in Chapter 14 (June 1838) highlighting the fact that not only were the major jubliees celebrated but also the other years.

exerpt from TheMorningChronicle Issue 17572 published 1825The earliest reference in printed form we have found to a Wedding Anniversary  having a symbol associated with it is from The Morning Chronicle Issue No 17572 published in 1825 this refers to Karl August the Grand Duke of the Saxe-Weimar-Eisenach region and his wife Louise of Hesse-Darmstadt who had married on 3rd October 1775 and celebrated 50 years of marriage in 1825.

The earliest reference to the Silver Wedding we have found is in The Era first published on Sunday 29th December 1839.

exerpt from The Era Sunday 29-12-1839

Our favourite reference is from The Belfast Newsletters Issue No.11797 originally printed 27th October 1852;  and recounts the writer finding a Golden Wedding celebration ongoing whislt he walked the streets of a Extract from The Belfast Newsletters 27th October 1852; Issue No.11797 detailing a golden wedding celebrationGerman town.

 

What do you call the 80th Anniversary?

We’ve been continuing our investigations into what each Wedding Anniversary is called and why, we’ve noticed that Wikipedia have an entry stating that the 80th Anniversary is the Oak Anniversary.

Now we’ve got to say this just seems to be wrong! You’ve been married 80 years, you’ve celebrated your Silver, Golden, Ruby and Diamond Anniversaries and the next Anniversary you’ve to look forward to is Oak, sorry I don’t agree.

We’ve been looking into the references that they mention and it is basically one website (OK it’s the Royal Website) but it is just one site that mentions Oak and when it does it is almost a throw away comment so again Wikipedia has very shaky references.

We emailed the editor of the Royal Web site to see if they could provide further evidence of how and why they believe the Anniversary should be called the Oak Anniversary. They’ve not come back to us yet and that was over a month ago so I suspect we will not get a response until they read a post like this!

So should being married for 80 years be associated with Oak, personally I don’t think so, if anything such a celebration should be given a symbol that has more gravitas.

Our personal favourite is Palladium

Why is this our favourite, well its quite easy really; Palladium is one of the newest precious metals known, given that we now live longer and people are more likely to live long enough to celebrate their 80th Anniversary  then these are effectively new events and hence the two match each other well on this fact. Palladium is also relatively rare such as 80th Anniversaries are and hence again they naturally match each other.

Who knows as we all live longer there may be a call to give the 90th Anniversary a name perhaps by then we could use Unobtainium as the symbol!

What do you think, should we use Palladium as the symbol for the 80th Anniversary? Leave a comment to join in the conversation.

Phil.

Crystal Wedding (15th Wedding Anniversary) Poem

The holding of celebrations on the anniversaries of different epochs of Married Life has Crystal Vase to represent the crystal weddingbecome a very pleasant feature of modern times from our research it appears these were popularised in the Victorian era.  These celebrations appear to be larger and more lavish than nowadays.

The earlier celebrations for wedding anniversaries bring out lots of happy jollity and kindheartedness. While those pertaining to longer marriages, when the crumbling milestones remind all of the years that have passed on the travel to the “Sweet By and By” are often made the occasion of a deal of sobered pleasure and deep thankfulness, as reminiscences of many merciful “Providences” offset the inevitable mischances that have beset even the happiest journey through life.

We found a poem for the Crystal-Wedding Celebration (Fifteenth Anniversary) from an American book published in 1878

How fast thro’ Time’s glass
Do the swift hours pass!
Fifteen years have now gone down the stream,
Since our host gave this dame
His heart and his name,
In the days when they dreamed Young Love’s Dream.

If ’twas to go over,
He’d still prove a lover,
And worship again, as when in his youth
He pledged his firm troth;
While she, nothing loth.
Gave her heart and her pledge in all truth.

The Hebrews when wed
On crushed crystal tread,
Which gives cause for sad fears and dejection;
But our friends, more true.
Hold a crystal to view
Showing no flaw or speck in reflection.

When Fifteen more years,
With their smiles and tears,
Have passed to the region where forgetfulness lies,
May our host and his bride.
Hand in hand, side by side.
Ever thus see Love mirrored in each other’s eyes.

H.L.W.

The book did not specify who H.L.W was so if anyone can shed some light on whom the poet is please drop us a line.

If you would like some up to date gift ideas for 15th wedding anniversary then please go to our main sites 15th Wedding Anniversary Page.

Silver-Wedding (25th Wedding Anniversary) Poem

The holding of celebrations on the anniversaries of different epochs of Married Life has Silver Tea set to represent the Silver Weddingbecome a very pleasant feature of modern times from our research it appears these were popularised initially in the Victorian era.  These celebrations, then, appear to be larger and more lavish than nowadays.

The earlier celebrations for wedding anniversaries bring out lots of happy jollity and kindheartedness. While those pertaining to longer marriages, when the crumbling milestones remind all of the years that have passed on the travel to the “Sweet By and By” are often made the occasion of a deal of sobered pleasure and deep thankfulness, as reminiscences of many merciful “Providences” offset the inevitable mischances that have beset even the happiest journey through life.

A Poem we found to mark the Silver-Wedding Celebration (Twenty-Fifth Anniversary.) from an American book published in 1878

Five times five years have winged their flight.
And waved their plumes in calm and strife,
Since this good couple first set out
To tread the path of wedded life.

And we who’ve watched them on the way.
Have seen them keep the narrow path;
All unallured by Pleasure’s charms
They’ve upward toiled over every wrath.

Ring joyous chimes on silver bells!
Let echo spread the mellow sound,
Till distant friends may well pleased list
As joy-tones gladden all around.

Fill to the brim a silver cup
With uninebriating wine,—
And to our host and hostess quaff
The crimson life-blood of the vine.

May we, by their example blessed,
Follow the path which they have trod,—
Winning approval (conscience tried)
From mortals and from mortals’ God.

H.L.W.

The book did not specify who H.L.W was so if anyone can shed some light on whom the poet is please drop us a line.

If you would like some up to date gift ideas for 25th wedding anniversary then please go to our main sites Silver Wedding page

Golden Wedding (50th Wedding Anniversary) Poem

The holding of celebrations on the anniversaries of different epochs of Married Life has Gold Jewellery to symbolise the Golden Wedding celebrationbecome a very pleasant feature of modern times from our research it appears these were popularised in the Victorian era.  These celebrations appear to be larger and more lavish than nowadays.

The earlier celebrations for wedding anniversaries bring out lots of happy jollity and kindheartedness. While those pertaining to longer marriages, when the crumbling milestones remind all of the years that have passed on the travel to the “Sweet By and By” are often made the occasion of a deal of sobered pleasure and deep thankfulness, as reminiscences of many merciful “Providences” offset the inevitable mischances that have beset even the happiest journey through life.

The following is a poem we found for the Golden-Wedding Celebration (Fiftieth Anniversary) from an American book published in 1878

Oh, Happy bridal jubilee!
Oh, sight to make the glad heart leap!
To brief recall the joys of youth,
And sooth the cares of years to sleep.

There’s beauty in those silver hairs
Youth’s auburn tresses never saw:
They are they crown of honoured years
Spent in obeying Nature’s law.

If dimples yield to furrowed cheeks.
They have a glory of their own:
Young Dawn is beautiful indeed,
But by the Evening is outshone.

Celestial ladders seem to rise
Skyward, while sunbeam steps unfold;
And crimson draperies hang around
The pathway burnished with bright gold.

So may the autumn of your days
Surpass the promise of your youth;
And troops of friends, and children’s love,
Show Worth still wins applause from Truth. H.L.W.

The book did not specify who H.L.W was so if anyone can shed some light on whom the poet is please drop us a line.

If you would like some up to date gift ideas for 50th wedding anniversary then please go to our main sites Golden Wedding page

Tin-Wedding (10th Wedding Anniversary) Poem

The holding of celebrations on the anniversaries of different epochs of Married Life has Tin can with loveheart on the frontbecome a very pleasant feature of modern times from our research it appears these were popularised in the Victorian era.  These celebrations appear to be larger and more lavish than nowadays.

The earlier celebrations for wedding anniversaries bring out lots of happy jollity and kindheartedness. While those pertaining to longer marriages, when the crumbling milestones remind all of the years that have passed on the travel to the “Sweet By and By” are often made the occasion of a deal of sobered pleasure and deep thankfulness, as reminiscences of many merciful “Providences” offset the inevitable mischances that have beset even the happiest journey through life.

We found a Poem for a Tin-Wedding Celebration (Tenth Anniversary)  from an American book published in 1878

Ten years have cycled o’er the lands
In strange eventful roll,
Since our good friends, in -wedlock firm,
Have joined both hand and soul.
And now—if we may judge by signs
Apparent to the dullest sight—
Although they may not mines have dug,
Nor brought the welling “ile” to light.
They’ve won a treasure richer far
Than “barrels of ile,” or piles of gold:
Pure home-life with affections warm.
Which rust eats not, nor cankers mold.

Tin was well chosen—free from spot—
Now ten years you’ve been man and wife
To show how homelike virtues wear—
To the Tenth year of married life.
Not iron, harsh, and rough, and crude,—
A symbol of the reign of force,—
But tin, so smooth, and giving face
To every metal, rough and coarse.
With Tin we think of hearthside themes:.
The dipper in the bucket oaken,
Where wild “Bub” dips poor Sis’s head,
And gives her jaunty curls a soakin’.
The oven—often called the Dutch—
But why—(tho’ they’re not much at boasting)
Unless because Von Troomp could give
His country’s foes a thorough roasting.
Tin saucepans for the dainty taste,
To make good food seem even better;
And mince-pie pans whose luscious bake
Would make Epicurus your debtor.
In ten years’ time a worthy wife
Will know what virtues are in tin.
And rightly used for viands rare,
She’s sure her husband’s love to win. H. L. W

Notes: Read “barrels of ile,” as barrels of oil, fro our scant research it appears ‘ile’ is an old fashioned spelling of oil!

Viands – an item of food

The book did not specify who H.L.W was so if anyone can shed some light on whom the poet is please drop us a line.

If you would like some up to date gift ideas for 10th wedding anniversary then please go to our main sites 10th Anniversary page

5th Wedding Anniversary Poem

The holding of celebrations on the anniversaries of different epochs of Married Life has Stack of Wooden Blocksbecome a very pleasant feature of modern times from our research it appears these were popularised in the Victorian era.  These celebrations appear to be larger and more lavish than nowadays.

The earlier celebrations for wedding anniversaries bring out lots of happy jollity and kindheartedness. While those pertaining to longer marriages, when the crumbling milestones remind all of the years that have passed on the travel to the “Sweet By and By” are often made the occasion of a deal of sobered pleasure and deep thankfulness, as reminiscences of many merciful “Providences” offset the inevitable mischances that have beset even the happiest journey through life.

We found a Poem for a Wooden-Wedding Celebration (Fifth Anniversary) from an American book published in 1878:

Five times bright Sol his annual course has run
Since these two loving hearts were joined as one.
[And many times the Moon had filled her horn,
Till unto them a blessed smiling babe was born.]*
The pretty wife’s bright eyes, smooth cheeks, attest,
That he has done in all his very best
To make the happiest hours of all her life
Those she has spent with him as his dear wife.

While his most mirthful talk and cheery laugh
Prove she has been to him, a “better half.”

Now for the Presents: Ah, a small girl’s hoop;
The next—a maple flour or sugar scoop;
A cradle (rather late) but ’twill not shock her
(In such a one the “Godlike” Dan slept—may be.)
And here, behold, a handsome Boston rocker, [baby]
Which might have soothed even “Wendell”—when, a
What next? Ah, truly, that’s “the rub,”
For one kind friend has sent a washing-tub.
A market-basket,—may it be full always.
A Noah’s Ark, for future Barnum’s play,
When  the boy drops “long clothes,” to don his pants,
and, like his papa, “sees the elephants.”
Of matches, kindling-wood, a goodly stock ;
And here (Spring’s harbinger) a cuckoo-clock.

Oh, may its full-voiced echo every chime
Record the passing of a blessed time.
Boxes to hold the varied odorous spice,
Which renders pies and cakes so very nice;
A rosewood desk, whose black and ruddy streaks
Like raven hair and maiden’s crimson cheeks ;
And now—in nursery to raise a battle —
Here is a genuine small watchman’s rattle.
And there, a thing (we don’t mean to speak evil),
But it does seem to raise the very devil!
At least it closely favours Satan’s shape—-
Although, they say, it represents an ape!
A rolling-pin, the flaky paste to mould ;
A chopping-bowl, the dubious hash to hold ;
A salad spoon and fork; a butter-dasher;
And every lady likes to see a “masher”;
Rollers for towels by the kitchen door;
And brooms and brushes for the kitchen floor-
All these, and many more, are now in vogue,
But we’ve not- space to give a catalogue.

*If the Couple had children then the text in square brackets [] was left in.

For a list of up to date gift ideas try our 5th Wedding Anniversary gift ideas