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Beginners guide to Wedding Anniversaries

Us oldies, occasionally forget that newly weds may not know the ins and outs of Wedding Wdding Anniversary EtiquetteAnniversary etiquette so here’s a quick run down of the etiquette.

  • Gift giving is not mandatory, commemorating the event however is highly desirable.
  • Early years Anniversary celebrations are instigated, typically, by the couple, later major ones may be organised by the couples children.
  • Every 5th year is considered a major milestone Anniversary
  • The 25th, 40th, 50th and 60th are the years considered the Major Wedding Anniversaries.
  • Traditionally if a gift is given then it is often themed or made of a specific material which differs for each year. The Traditional Wedding Anniversary List shows all these materials for each year.
  • A Modern version of the traditional list was updated to produce a more comprehensive list to cover more anniversary years, this runs side by side with the traditional list allowing you to choose gifts from either list.
  • Other organisations have release other Wedding Anniversary lists, the only other two that are notable are the Gemstone Anniversary List and the appropriate flower list.

That’s it really, if you still have an etiquette question surrounding a wedding anniversary then please check our etiquette section or drop us a line and we’ll try and help.

When is a Wedding Anniversary not an Anniversary?

The earliest known references to celebrations for wedding anniversaries which have symbols associated within them we have found to date are to the Silver Wedding (25 years of marriage) and Golden Wedding (50th Wedding Anniversary).

Originating in the middle of Europe (Germany/Austrian Region) they involved the husband giving his wife a silver garland when they had been married for 25 years and a Gold garland when they had been married for 50 years.

One of the noteworthy things from the above is that the celebrations were termed the Silver Wedding and Golden Wedding with no reference to anniversary hence when celebrating any wedding anniversary that has a symbol associated with, it is appropriate to just call it by the material then wedding e.g. Silver Wedding for the 25th or Paper Wedding for the 1st Anniversary.

Thus, when people refer to the Golden Wedding Anniversary they are technically talking about a subsequent year after the event e.g. the anniversary of the Golden Wedding!